It’s been a long time since I’ve posted to this blog. Fourteen years have passed since our daughter Becky died in an auto accident just four short days after Christmas in 2010. Fourteen years encompasses a lot of life! Becky and Jacob’s girls are young adults now with busy, wonderful lives. Amity is happily married and attending Oregon State University online working toward an Agricultural Business degree. She and her husband Tristan have given us four great grandchildren – the sweetest, happiest kids you can imagine. Dara is engaged, working, and going to Oregon State University on her way to a degree in chemical engineering. She and Connor have given us a great grandcat, Samwise Hotwheels, and we have hopes for human great grands in the future.
I know now the truth that grief never ends, but it surely changes. Life is good in so many ways and God is good in every way! Tears still come, but they are the exception and not the rule of our lives. This year at Christmas I had the opportunity to share a communion meditation on Christmas Sunday. Thinking of that innocent and divine babe in the manger always affirms to me the unfathomable goodness of God. The goodness of God even in our times of unthinkable grief and sorrow is the theme of the meditation. I share it with you now, exactly as I shared it on Christmas Sunday 2024. May God reveal even more of Himself to you as you read!
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My name is Claudia and I have the privilege of bringing a communion thought today. In some ways it feels a bit jarring to bring death into this season of joy and gifts. But the reality is thinking about why Jesus was born can also give space for our grief and sorrow even in a time of joy. And it can remind us of the goodness of God.
Fourteen years ago, just five days after our family Christmas gathering, our 32-year-old daughter Becky was killed in a traffic accident. Becky’s death was devastatingly awful – the hardest, darkest time of my life. My full being broke under the grief. I was physically ill that winter more than I’d ever been. I experienced profound brain fog and couldn’t think or read or process much of anything. I couldn’t even systematically read the Bible – something I’d done most days for about 40 years at that time.
I couldn’t read scripture as in the past, but in the goodness of God, Holy Spirit ministered the living Word of God into my life. All that had been stored up in me over the years came to me at just the right moment over and over again.
In the goodness of God I woke every morning with worship songs in my head and heart.
In the goodness of God I inhaled and exhaled prayer and saw amazing answers.
In the goodness of God when we returned home from Spokane where we helped plan something we never wanted to plan, there were hundreds of prayer cards waiting on our kitchen table – cards the members of Suburban had written out for us during a church service while we were gone.
In the goodness of God, He allowed me to be angry, to question Him, to struggle through to once again seeing His goodness and love even as I continued to grieve deeply. He never left me.
In the goodness of God a group of my sisters here at Suburban came to lay hands on me and physically pray over me before each of my monthly trips back to Spokane where Becky’s husband and two girls still lived.
I kept an online grief journal during that time called “Gleanings from Claudia”. One of the entries explored God’s call to Abraham to sacrifice his son Isaac. I remember being so angry as I reread that story. How could a loving God ask a man to kill his son to prove …. to prove what? Faith? Love? Obedience? But as I read, it was as if the very voice of God said to me, “You have it wrong – it was a way to demonstrate and prove my love for you!” John 3:16 tells us:
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
The goodness of God is abundantly demonstrated in the birth of His Son. The goodness of God and His ability to enter into our places of need, sorrow, and grief is overwhelmingly proven in the death of His Son. And God is able through Holy Spirit living in us to immerse us in His goodness no matter what we are facing in our lives.
The details of God’s goodness in your life will look different than the details of God’s goodness in mine. Holy Spirit meets us where we live. But the truth of the goodness of God rests in the person of His Son Jesus, the one whose birth we remember and rejoice in today. As you take the bread and cup of communion please also take a moment to praise God for His provision. And don’t be afraid to be real about your place of need knowing that our good God will meet you there. Would you pray with me?

